Grave Secrets?

We all have these right? The things about us that we will take to the grave. I carry mine around with me and I began to wonder what the world would look like if I put them out there. If we all did. There is so much shame in our lives, and if like me, you find it easier to focus on that than on all the amazing wonderful things you might have done in your life then this might be the place for you.

I suppose the end goal is that they are no longer secrets, just part of us learning to love our whole self, and not viewing things/actions/behaviours through the heavy lens of "good/bad/right/wrong".

There is a psychological model that suggests our shadow self is one of the most powerful elements of our make up to help enable change. Or this is how I have become to think about this shadow self, it's a powerful tool for us to use. That flushed face, or feeling if disgust, those emotions that you feel you cannot control can be used to compel you to even greater things in your life.

My dream would be that we live in a world where people do not feel they need to take anything to the grave with them - it's nice to have secrets, but I wish our world could move into a more compassionate and empathetic one where a person is not judged by isolated incidents and is given all the love and nourishment they need to develop their potential.

You will see much of my writing is about feelings of guilt and shame, partly as they are so powerful, but also because when speaking with others about my journey they have been overwhelmed by my openness and willingness to exist in this space. It's not something that comes naturally - but it is something I push myself towards and I believe one way of doing that is to talk about things, we need to normalise experiences which I KNOW many of us are having but not discussing.

If we can dial up the love in our lives, and seek to forgive, we can really grow into people who will enter the grave as peacefully as we have tried to spend our time on earth and loving our whole self.

You will need to read these blogs if you want to learn my grave secrets - they are buried within the tales of my life, not clearly identified but the point at which you are reading and you begin to feel your face flush, or you cross your legs, or maybe you are laughing a little too hard - that will be a good indication that you have stumbled across one.

I hope you enjoy reading these blogs as much as I have enjoyed writing them - I want you to feel open to share with me as well so let me know. If you feel brave enough post a grave secret up here - I promise you there will be nothing someone else hasn't done. And if there is, well done you, celebrate that accomplishment!