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So being lonely is like a constant battle and recently I’ve been thinking of it in terms of building a wall which you didn’t intend to...

I want to talk about loneliness, well actually I don’t because it’s bloody hard. How often do you hear someone say I feel alone? Or I’m...

Be honest now did you click this link because you are still searching for you superpower? You know that one thing that you were MEANT to...

Once upon a time there were these two octopuses, or octopi, I’m not sure. One was called Dr. Ronx and one was called Dr. Xand, sorry Dr....

I read a lot of self-help books. I’m reading one at the moment by a Buddhist Monk, it’s excellent, and describes an entirely new way to...

It did not dawn on me until a conversation with a friend that many of my blogs have been backwards looking which is bizarre as I am a...

I had stopped drinking out and started drinking in. I don’t recall this becoming a conscious decision. I recall going out to work drinks...

This is the one I’ve been dreading writing for so long. I keep starting it and then don’t get far enough but I’m committed this time....

His name was Karl Bareham. Even seems weird to type that in the past tense. We were not close, I knew him at college, we fooled around a...

I had this amazing counsellor for a while, she had these Russian Dolls in the room – you know the ones all nested in each other. She used...

I actually wrote this one way back before lockdown and before I’d even started a blog, but I think it’s probably even more relevant now...

I’ve been in a pit. I’ve been there before, and I don’t doubt I’ll go there again. You know the place where all you want to do is stay in...

I’m not going back …………..there I said it. Have you been thinking it? Maybe you have and maybe you share some of my reasons for why....

I’ve had a weird way of coming to family life as a grownup – I tend to think of it up and down, and oddly they happened at the same time....

I’m the youngest of 3 children, and the only girl. My brothers are a fair bit older than me as well. As many of you in the same situation...

I lost my mum over a decade ago - I realised that there were so many things I wish I could have asked her that it might be fun to write...

Every hour of every day is a battle and you will succeed with love, support and mercy. This is the ultimate challenge to which you will...

Our family is a bit different; I wish it wasn’t but sadly even in 2020 it still is. I go to work, full time, a job with a fair amount of...

Evaluate, reflect and seek to redress imbalance in unhealthy elements in every relationship. Focus first on yourself. I feel REALLY...

We all have these right? The things about us that we will take to the grave. I carry mine around with me and I began to wonder what the...